To take it a step further, I ask questions of myself like, Where did that emotional response come from? Is it a habitual response? or is it based on reasonable logic? What beliefs do I have about the situation that give rise to these emotions and where are they rooted? Is there a better way?
All to often, when others are talking to us – expressing a concern, problem, or a worry – we are too busy trying to guess… Read More »Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood: Suspending Your Frame of Reference
Strong emotions demand immediate attention. We are taught – most often by example – that Anger demands an immediate answer of us; that Fear demands an immediate response. In some cases this may be true, but even then, having taken time to decide on personal policy before hand can help immensely over time.